The onset of the colder weather is a very odd and precious time for us because, like I imagine in days of Yore, it usually involves a period of compromised resources and more meager habits, an odd preciousness of more carefully-selected enterprises and purchases and a more dear experience of daily life.
Case in point: car troubles could be a source of anxiety if I let them. We already only have one car working and it’s not working well. The worst problem (of a handful), the most serious that I can tell, is a leaking of at least two seals which lends itself to an extremely wet interior now that the rain has set in (we’re talking squishy sounds when you step in, they’d be satisfying if they didn’t herald a fall-apart we can’t afford) which means children who have to hold groceries and my purse and their books on their lap (for fear of water damage), and even rusty bits beginning to fall off the car (frowny-face). We do not have a Plan at this point, or rather we could have lots of Plans if we had a bit more funds. Fine, whatever. We will survive. In fact I look forward to whatever future we have – as far as a car goes – as the current one is not sustainable.
Today I worked extra-hard, despite a lack of sleep and that nagging irritation I was seriously behind on sewing work (which I am), to put the house in order and love up the kids and make a lovely, nourishing dinner for my husband when he arrived home from his late-night class. I haven’t really mentioned this much but Ralph Hogaboom is being rode hard and put away wet at work since the very busy summer, without abatement so far. Ralph is a stellar man and as you might expect a heroic Systems Analyst (or twatever they’re calling them these days). His job is kind of both of ours in the sense I can listen and advise and think about his position and be entirely impressed with what he delivers. It’s not that I couldn’t respect (or sleep with) a man who did only his lukewarm-best in the nine daily hours he’s ransomed to Strangers… it’s just, knowing about his work reminds me of why I like him so much. Enough to breed with him, as it turns out.
In addition (today) I kept getting distracted by our children, so funny and alive and particular. Nels bobs around playing his various games and requires my participation at times; he delivers kisses and hugs and tells me how Pretty I look today. I take my daughter, after soccer (practice goes an extra half-hour because they are enjoying themselves) and we get some milkshakes. Her body is wiry and cold and she comes to the grocery store with me and pushes the cart and is the Best Company Ever. My last $50 of the week, gone, parts of it spent to make her suggested dinner (spinach and bacon quiche, served alongside a multicolored salad and some rich red chianti for Ralph and I). After dinner, at home, a hot bath for both of us.
Of note: today I also wrote a small magnum opus: “part 2 (.Tenderness.)” at Underbellie (a follow-up for “Hi, my name is Kelly. I’m a recovering Good Parent (Part 1)“, penned about three weeks ago). Response has been wonderful including a specific and incredible Thank You email that reminds me why I write.
Sometimes I write a rather polished post and other times, like tonight, I write until I’m about to collapse into a hot bath and then bed. What are you gonna do.
Which seals are leaking? The door seals or the window seals? If it’s the door seals you might try picking up some cheap weather stripping from a Home Depot or something to block the flow of water, but I could easily be oversimplifying things. I’m guessing the actual seal replacements won’t be cheap. If the windows are leaking and have frames, you may be able to cut up an inner tube to use as a liner along the edge of the glass or apply some silicone caulk if you can live without rolling down the windows. If the windows are frameless…hmm…rain guards might work, but then we’re back to spending money.
Just trying to spark a solution for ya. All I can keep imagining is the eventual mildew smell (if it hasn’t already arrived). I have a serious aversion to the smell of mildew and it would break me for sure.
Reading this post made my morning. Thanks for sharing your writing skills, and for being so real. Sometimes it’s nice to identify with SO MUCH of what you say.
what a very tender piece you wrote at underbelly. It made me love you and my life with my kids. It made me cry. Thanks Kelly.
The question is, which seals AREN’T leaking? Thank you for your ideas. The mildew smell hasn’t arrived YET, I think because it’s too wet! & yeah… I’m just barely keeping the edge of my depression and to have one of our only Assets fall apart before my eyes, well. I’m not really keeping on top of my feelings right now.
You’re welcome, and thanks for the compliments!
A few people have told me that piece made them cry. I’m so glad you like it. I’m even more glad you love your life with your kids. Thank you for your comment.